At my age, everyone (including yourself) is damaged to some degree. Its inevitable. It's life. But there are some people who are SO damaged that it hinders their ability to form and maintain genuine connections. Not only is this emotional disability crippling to those who are damaged, but it is crippling to those who care about them and hope for progression. Those of us who take the time to try to show them that not everyone is the same. Some of us have more patience and hope than others so we stick around for what feels like forever. Sad thing is, forever and a day still isn't enough time nor is it good enough for someone who is unable to recognize just what your intention is. Their vision isn't clear so they are unable to tell the difference between you (their ally) and their enemy. Everyone and everything is the same. Whether you have been there for 10 minutes or 10 years it makes no difference. Its a double edged sword because the frustration of the situation and your love for them both makes you want to help the situation but it also infuriates you.
I've come to the personal conclusion that it's ok to care about someone who is damaged. You just have to do so from a distance so that you do not end up damaging yourself in the process.

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