There are too many of us who give all of themselves to those who are incapable of giving back what they are receiving. Stop willingly giving up your soul in order to post #AlwaysUsNeverThem pics on Instagram.
It's a double edged sword because you enter a situation with your wall up and you cripple and stunt the potential of growth within the connection. You go into something optimistically and open and you have now thrown yourself into the lions den. You have instinct and you know when something is not right for you but you hope for the best. Stop moving purely off of emotion and force yourself to be logical. There has to be balance. It is necessary for survival.
You can not dictate how someone loves you. You can not condemn someone for not loving you the way you want or need. It is unfair and illogical to do so. It is logical though to save yourself when you realize that an unhealthy emotional situation is killing you. Sometimes people love you with all they have but that does not take away from the fact that they are soul snatchers. Life drainers. If you truly want the right love connection you have to love yourself first. That means knowing when to remove yourself from situations that aren't meant for you. Stop wasting your time. No amount of ass shots, breast implants and 28" virgin Brazilian body wave will buy you the wasted time back. I promise that once you stop participating in your own slow death, you will start living the life you were intended to have. I'm no expert but this is sound advice that everyone can use. Myself included.
Xoxo,
Sweet Toti
