Blind Leading the Blind

"Yes, girl, I can't believe he did that - You DEF don't need to be dealing with him - You deserve better you don't need a man - You're a strong, independent woman", etc. All coming from the type of woman that is in a (fucked up) relationship/lives with her man/married. When I get "advice" from women I not only take it with a grain of salt, I also add 3 tablespoons of Lawry's on top of that. These are women that give advice that they themselves have never taken. On the surface, the intent of such advice is usually positive. The underlying intent not so much. This is the main reason why outside of my family my best friends are men. 

Misery loves company and many women don't want another woman happy if they aren't. Reason being, most women are unhappy with themselves. Obviously this is due to the constant comparison of oneself to another. Even the baddest women on Earth have insecurities. This is why we have there are so many enhancers. Makeup, weaves, surgeries, etc. Of course, men have insecurities too. The difference is that as long as they have money and/or power their out of shape bodies/small dicks/ balding heads/ugly faces are no longer a factor. The Dream looks like Shirley from ' What's Happenin' but he was able to bag Christina Milian. If he was an average dude from Flatbush Ave. trust and believe that he would not have been able to do that. Men figured out a long time ago that it is never necessary to chase women. If you chase money, the women will follow. Women's insecurities lead to cattiness in all shapes and forms. Men's insecurities lead them to an intense paper chase. 

No matter how strong of a woman you are or how strong of a woman you pretend to be men do and will always have the upper hand. Women outnumber men. They have a choice. As women, we always have a choice as well. No one should ever settle for the sake of not being alone but it's just as Kanye said. "All that independent shit - trade it all for a husband and some kids". Men determine whether or not a seed will be planted therefore whether or not your legacy will be carried on. That's some heavy deep shit. You have to be impregnated in order to reproduce. Real talk, the ball is in their court. Yes as women we are the vessel and epitome of life and strength but again the man physically holds the power as to WHEN that will happen. We are programmed to want to find our match an reproduce with them. This is the basic science. We need to be married and have kids by a certain age. Not only is it a mental nuisance but it is a medical fact that you are considered "high risk" if you get pregnant after the age of 35. Men can produce sperm for years after that hence the constant competition that women are in from the time they realize and learn that their pussy getting wet actually has a purpose. 

So now no matter what issue arises between me and my hunny whether it be miniscule or major, there will always be those "friends" whose first reaction will always be, "Yes leave him alone girl!!!". meanwhile if you look at her situation she's either unhappily attached, settled for loving the one that loves her, or is single. These are the types that have never been alphas. Their one chance to feel like a leader is if they beat you to the alter. They need to make sure that no one else's happiness surpasses theirs. I might have to go all out and say that this hate usually comes from Black and Hispanic women. Most of my White friends are married with kids. The plethora of reasons are too many to list here. I'll tell you one thing though. Beck and Sarah do NOT sit on the phone for an hour and a half talking about how trifling Brad is. They keep their intimate issues INTIMATE. They don't dick bash because for the most part they aren't struggling, single mothers like so many of us Black and Hispanic women are. That's a topic for a different time. 

The strongest, most long standing couples have been through some real shit. That's life. You cannot allow your hating ass cipher to point you in the direction of Lonelyville. Their asses aren't checking for you when they are boo'd up believe that. 

My point isn't that you should be blind to good, sound advice if you're in a fucked up situation but I am saying that sometimes bitches need to stay in their lane. I personally don't base my life decisions off of the opinions of what a bitter bitch with an ulterior motive thinks.

IDGAF I will ALWAYS tell a meddling, judgmental chick about herself. These bitches have no problem serving you food that they themselves would never touch. FOH ! Keep on listening to your "homegirls" and you will end up one lonely, powdered donut p*ssied individual. Mark my words.